What God has joined together let no man put asunder.
Often heard is this phrase from Matthew 19:6 proclaimed before the pastor announces the couple to be Man and Wife. For very long I have been guided to think that this only apply within a marriage as the context of this verse suggests this. The moment the couple say “I Do” any contrary decision thereafter is irreversible. God did not intend for divorce to happen and therefore any couple who intend to follow God should leave no room for divorce, however attractive the idea may seem at times… and I dare say, even in martial unfaithfulness. This is one idea, I believe, the book of Hosea has already laid out explicitly.
So, for very long I have been guided to think that this only apply within a marriage context. Recently I was led to think otherwise. This is because a principle need not always be confined to a particular context. A contextual truth can have a wider application. Now I believe the principle of this truth apply even when a couple is still dating.
If a dating couple is certain that their relationship of God — meaning that God brought them together. Then a break-up is non-negotiable. The relationship should likewise be regarded as sacred. Thus any use of lets-end-this-relationship bribery should be condemned.
Conversely, if a dating couple is not certain that their relationship is of God — meaning that they are not sure if it was God who brought them together. Then any break-up could be accepted. . . but then again, the necessity of the relationship itself should be questioned. Ask questions like “why are we together for?” If either one is not certain that their relationship is of God, then marriage might not be the best option for whatever other reasons there is.
God brings two people together, thus it is up to the couple to persevere and work out their differences. For Serene and I, there are big issues for us to work with. Issues which, I believe, no couple should be put through before marriage because they are so unfairly tough. Our task ahead looks really big and daunting, hence we are really struggling. Please pray for us.
As for me, I must always remember that the correct paradigm should be Master > Mate > Missions. Not Master > Missions > Mate. The ramifications of this priority mistake is disastrous. Correction, I dare not make such a mistake, again.
God brings together and only can God pull apart. What God has joined together let no man dare put asunder.